Bitter Trial of a Daughter and her Dad!

 

Mom Is the Best in the World – Isn’t She?

 

There are very good reasons why in almost every society on this planet child sexual abuse is considered the most heinous crime next to murder – because it is harmful, not only to the individual child subjected to abuse, but also to the future of the human race as such. As human beings we all know this at a very deep psychological and even genetic level, which is why the subject is sure to grab everyone’s attention and will elicit powerful emotional response in all of us.

 

This is exactly what makes false accusations of sexual abuse such a choice morsel to pounce upon for ex-wives looking for a weapon to eliminate their former spouses from their lives. They make an efficient tool to gain support from caring social workers and court officials.

 

The scary thing is that it seems as if a lot of moms of a particular type in this country find this a completely normal and acceptable procedure, even as something totally within their rights as a natural step in their “pursuit of happiness”, which would seem to include securing the “ownership” of their child or children – and in some cases serving as a means in attempting to heal their own pain by inflicting pain on others.

 

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

                   Khalil Gibran

 

Even scarier is the fact that for every time such false accusations are made, the voices of women and children in real abusive situations and in genuine need of help from our society are less likely to be heard.

 

But the scariest thing of all is that the defenseless children of the increasing number of moms who choose to disregard their nurturing responsibilities as mothers in order to get what they want and get rid of what they don’t want, are self-manipulated into believing that the other parent doesn’t care or is even outright evil.

 

This begs the question of how our world will look in just another fifteen or twenty years, populated by people who will have been taught to distrust and hate their fathers, people who in turn will pass on this hate-legacy to future generations?

 

 

If you find this is a chilling thought, please read on!

 

 

Our daughter, now 8 years old, is missing her Dad. She has been kept from seeing him for 8 months - and counting …

 

Why?

Because she had the audacity to break down crying and tell her mom that she would rather live with her dad and his wife than with her mom and her mom’s new well-to-do boyfriend.

 

How?

This didn’t sit well with her mom who grabbed at that fix-all solution which is sadly enough gaining in popularity: false accusations of sexual abuse.

 

Mom needs Dad out of daughter’s life so she resorts to PAS – Parental Alienation Syndrome. To see in depth information regarding this monstrous crime: Parental Alienation Syndrome

 

Mom attained the services of a school psychologist who, for reasons unknown, chose to interpret the child’s behavior as indicative of sexual abuse, and went to court with a petition stating that the child’s father was abusing her mentally, physically and sexually, and so should not be allowed to see her. This without consulting Dad even once which is normal procedure.

 

 

To find further support for her allegations, mom went to great lengths to track down and secure the assistance of two of the child’s half-sisters who have been estranged from Dad for more than 17 years. This, the result of a 20 year marriage gone very wrong with deceptions and extra-marital affairs by the girl’s mother and the father’s attempts at righting the wrongs presented to his children by his so-called wife.

 

These assertions have been refuted by the fathers’ oldest daughter as purely manipulations by the x-wife and two younger daughters to destroy the marriage so that Dad would not succeed in the terrible deed of teaching his children the difference between right and wrong and the consequences that accompany wrong action.

 

Great pains were also taken by mom to support the allegations of mental abuse by throwing suspicion on the Native American heritage and spirituality of our daughter’s dad, twisting it into something ominous and harmful to the child. Expressions such as “the child was catatonic” and “her eyes rolled back in her head and she was chanting” were used to imply that some kind of cult-like activities had been forced upon her by her dad.

 

This from the same woman who came into Dad’s life claiming a supernatural connection to Chief Joseph and a daily communication with same who she claimed told her to come to Dad and enter into his life as a significant other. In reality the aim was for the child to be fathered by a Native American and then leave the relationship shortly thereafter having achieved her twisted goal of gaining social acceptance in the less than desirable circles that she seems to aspire to.

 

Had his spiritual background been, say Catholic, or Episcopalian, or Jewish, would this same issue have been brought to the fore? Any person with just a cursory knowledge of any branch of Native American spirituality will know that these are cultures that are very willing to share but do not do “missionary work” in any form – they are far too respectful of the individual person, adult or child, and his or her own powers of discernment. It is true that the child has had to “suffer” the saying of grace at mealtimes, but if this is a crime, then a lot of good people in this country are in serious trouble!

 

Then what?

While our daughter was being subjected to physical exams, further “therapy” sessions, poking, prodding, questioning and videotaping, her dad was investigated not only once, but twice by Child Protective Services as well as by a leading expert on child abuse appointed by the Family Court – and in both cases was cleared of the false accusations.

 

And so, after a period of 7 months, Family Court finally awarded him a short succession of supervised visitations with the child as a prelude to resuming normal visitation schedule.

 

However, the law guardian, the same one who was instrumental in getting mom sole custody of the child when mom left her dad and divorced him about a year after the child was born, was not in agreement with the Family Court judge and seemingly felt personally offended by his decision.

 

Throughout the whole cruel process, this law guardian has kept talking about how “this little girl has been humiliated”.

 

One can only agree. But the question is: by whom? By her dad who has done nothing wrong except to love and care for his little girl as urged by the natural protective instincts of any sound-minded human male? Or by a mom who seems to regard her child, not as a human being but as a piece of property, a prop to her self-image as a “real” woman, a steppingstone to social acceptance and climbing, a means to alleviate her own pain?

 

And so, our daughter has still not been allowed to see her dad.

Further aided by a new and even more aggressive attorney (number four in a row now), mom is still succeeding in keeping daughter and dad from each other.

 

The case was taken to appellate court with a petition for a stay on the order of visitation and demands to have a court hearing.

 

“Erring on the side of caution”, was the expression used when the appellate court decided to both grant and uphold a stay on the supervised visitations, arguing that if so much time had already elapsed, then certainly another month or two would do no harm!

 

Our daughter and her dad are still denied any contact whatsoever, as they have been now for 8 months, not even in the form of a Christmas or birthday or Valentine’s Day present.

 

Now they are facing a court hearing, presumably to be held in April or May, where the credibility of everyone involved is to be gauged by the court. It is hard to believe that the outcome will be any different than those of the two investigations already conducted, since there is a very good reason why they both came back unfounded. The demand to have this hearing is simply part of a strategy to exhaust both the emotional and financial resources of our daughter’s dad – and indeed the hearing is going to be a costly affair in both respects.

 

The question still remains whether mom’s strategy will work.

Our daughter has been subjected to callous manipulation, to humiliating attacks on her personal integrity and human dignity – there would probably even be those who would argue that such treatment comes alarmingly close to the definition under international humanitarian law of torture as the infliction of severe pain or suffering, physical or mental, with the purpose of obtaining something, information, for example. And this at the hands of persons who by very definition should be her protectors and who should have her best interests at heart, her mom and a member of the so-called helping professions aided by a law guardian who seems to have betrayed her obligation to serve as the champion of the child and chosen to act as promoter of the ego-centered interests of the child’s manipulating mom.

 

Our daughter’s dad has been subjected to defamation, his name and reputation being dragged through the mud, and his religious rights, as well as those of every other person of Native American descent, have been trampled in the dust. It was not until 1978, yes you read it right: 1978, that First Americans were guaranteed constitutional First Amendment protection of freedom of religion! It would seem, however, that even now thirty years later this Act has still not had very great effect. As a reader of this, you should also know that mom’s attorneys are perusing this website in search of any morsel that might be used against Our daughter’s dad.

 

As every original tradition on this Earth knows, the world is not created by governments and policy-makers, it is created by ordinary everyday people and their ordinary everyday walks through life. We have a choice; we always have a choice, even when our egos want to lead us to believe that there is only one possible course of action. What the ego is trying to keep from us in such instances is the fact that this single course of action is just the one perceived as most likely to lead to the specific thing or outcome that will feed the ego.

 

However, this alluring deceit does not change the deeper fact that the world as it is now, and the world as it will become are the direct product of our actions: in all our actions, we are responsible to the next generations!

 

Which kind of world would you prefer for your children and your children’s children? A world ruled by greed, grabbing, ruthless egotism and abuse, or one under the caring stewardship of men and women who recognize themselves, not as opposite, but complementary energies, both necessary to sustain balanced life on this Earth?

Plea for Help:

 

I am not a wealthy man, this 8 month long ordeal which is still dragging on has taken a heavy toll on my financial resources, which are now exhausted from paying attorney fees – and yet, as both devoted father and a principled man, I feel that I cannot let down my daughter whom I told time and time again, “I will always be there for you – Honey!”

 

The last estimates of court and attorneys fees are now approaching $25000.00!

 

If what has been said in this expose resonates with you and you want to right a cruel wrong by helping daughter and dad get through this malicious farce which they are being put through, please make a donation - small or large, as you see fit - any contribution will be received with great thankfulness!

 

Please send a check for the amount to:

 

Grant Redhawk

P.O. Box 2095

Wilton, NY

12831

 

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THANK YOU!

 

1978: American Indian Religious Freedom Act (AIRFA)

• Guarantees constitutional First Amendment protection of freedom of religion for Native Americans - to believe, express, and exercise their traditional religions, including "access to sacred sites, use and possession of sacred objects and freedom to worship through ceremonials and traditional rites".